A long time ago, I had read somewhere that ‘ethics’ were a luxury of people whose basic needs were already met. Pretty cynical huh?
I always thought of myself as a principled and ethical person, who would not bend rules just to satisfy some greed. Recently, I was decribed by someone as ‘internally good’. (The same person, however also called me ‘andar se kameena’ many times. Some others have said of me, ‘Dil saaf hai bechare ka.’
To all this, I say,”The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he did not exist.”
I try to be nice, and a few years ago, one would probably have seen me falling over myself tow in some elusive approval through others. My self-worth has, since then, been patched well and escalated to a lakshanamaana delusion of grandeur that goes with being the scion of a Tambram family.
I went through the same old brainwashing as a child about how one is useless if kanaku was not one’s forte.
Growing up, I heard all the protectionist parental arguments about how arranged marriages are practical, and how parents know all. I was given examples of failed love marriages where the story is an embarrassment to all involved and an entertainment to all within earshot. I never bought the parental ‘because I said so’ rationale and challenged it at every step. This usually resulted in lots of scoldings and slaps. I always believed in the beauty of love, and fished out data about happy couples who were the product of love marriages and found out, soon after, that the percentages of bad marriages were pretty much the same either way.
Food: A lot of people I know like to call themselves foodies. I thought I was one too for a long time. I still think so, but after having understood the true meaning of loving food. Earlier, I ate and ate (and I am not alone in this) to fill a personality void, as a sort of mental anesthesia from the loneliness. The problem with that was that I ate all the wrong food: KFC, gyro, etc., which were no culinary feats, but just fatty food which numbed me completely. Certain changes over the past year gave me the direction that my non-academic life needed. I use food in the opposite way now. I eat out less often, but more from the non-chain, quaint, rustic places where the food quality is good. That being said, my palate has refined over time. I literally get nauseous when the door to Burger King opens as I pass by it.
Reading: My reading evolved just like every normal child. I was into Sherlock Holmes and the classics (Dickens, Bronte, etc) from an early age. I was knee-deep in Enid Blyton for a few years. Upon a sister’s insistence, I read some Nancy Drew/Hardy Boys stuff, but did not appreciate them much. Archer, Ludlum, Forsyth, Hailey and the like followed.
Rowling then came, and cemented her place in my top 5. I don’t care what anyone says about the Potter series being kids’ books, even the most hardened naysayers grudgingly admit that Rowling ‘kanna pinnanu ezhudaraal.’ Now that Harry is living happily ever after, I keep re-reading Ayn Rand and Dawkins and Hitchens.
Some of my favorite quotes:
1. “Tradition is the illusion of permanence” – Woody Allen
2. “Ridicule is the only weapon which can be used against unintelligible propositions.” – Thomas Jefferson
3. “Je n’avais pas besoin de cette hypothèse-là” (I had no need of that hypothesis) – Pierre-Simon Laplace, when asked by Napoleon why he did not mention God in his book on astronomy. This one is a tongue-in-cheek tribute to a fine blogger as it is a demonstration of Occam’s razor wielded by Laplace.
4.”The ability to quote is a serviceable substitute for wit.” – William Somerset Maugham
8 thoughts on “A random note about me”
Nice point ’bout the tambrahm ‘love marriage is a bad thing ‘tirade :D… if u buy it ur chamathu…else I dont even know the appropriate term 😀 !!!
And ‘m guessing there are a lot of rustic food places to be explored in NYC..I think I saw a couple at Greenwich Village when I visited there, which I have been dyingg to visit 🙂
I used to eat pretty poorly when I was a student. I guess as you grow older/more mature you watch out for your health.
But my staple favorites as a student used to be (and still are) BK and Panera Breads.
I believe the appropriate term you are looking for is “ashadu.”
(sorry liberal couldnt resist. :D)
I see you hve been on the receiving end of such a tirade…you should check out NYC food places!
I see wat u mean abt people wisening up with respect to food…as for couldn’t resist, u are welcome to comment on comments, although I think the reason choco did not mention ashadu was I think because she wanted a much stronger word!
its good to hear that your eating has improved, and that you are running too.. good for you grass-hopper!
That actually read like the story of my life.
-> Nice guy up front, andar se kameena.(according to others that is)
-> Junk food for four years of engineering(you dont even have mention 8 yrs of life in Bombay before that). And a transition to properly cooked food, sugarfree stuff, no chips at home, no carbonated drinks etc etc.
-> Same books. And believe it or not, same transitions!
And J.K. Rowling is a marvelous conductor of that orchestra with words. No doubt about that.
Things are a-changing!
Nice to know there are more in my boat…also here is what Nicholas Kristof said about the Harry Potter series, “Look, the chance to read these books aloud is by itself a great reason to have kids.”
So, we have many great people agreeing that Rowling is magic.
good to read this post..and i am glad.. you are particular how you satisfy your needs.